Theme of the Month
This month we will focus on the powerful concept, self-esteem.
People with strong self-esteem regard themselves highly and feel good about who they are. In order for children, teens, and adults to thrive in school, business, and life, they must see themselves and their contributions as worthwhile.
It is so tough to see our children feeling bad about themselves. Of course, he’s a good kid! Children vary in developmental level when it comes to social growth. These differences, while normal, can often make kids feel bad about how they compare to others. It’s often this comparison that can compromise our children’s self-esteem– especially if they feel that they fall short of others.
Here are some ways to help:
(1) Find your child’s strengths: Each child has strengths. Some are easy to notice– they are prolific writers, gifted artists or amazing athletes. Other children’s strengths might be harder to uncover. Think about it. Does he have a musical gift that has yet to be unveiled? A scientific mind that can figure out complex problems? An ability to teach others or to see nature in a whole new light? Once you figure out your child’s gift, reflect it back to him. Help him see that it’s beautiful and appreciated.
(2) Help him to practice social skills: You are a “soft place to land” for your child. Ask him to tell you more about his feelings. What makes him feel that he doesn’t have a lot of friends? What does he see happening in social situations? Does he know how to “read the room” and adapt? In a recent podcast episode on How to Talk to Kids about Anything, guest, Caroline Maguire discusses how we can do some pre-planning or what she calls, “paving” before playdates to help our kids be more successful. Playdates in the home can help minimize stressors and deepen friendships– and it can give you the opportunity to goal-set, debrief, learn and improve!
(3) Drive home the successes: After a playdate, highlight what went well. Even if your child didn’t get everything right, focus on the successes. Did the playdate start well? Did your child exhibit good sharing skills? Did the pair laugh and have fun? Each time your child takes positive social risks and something goes right, bring it to light. Learning takes time and with each step towards competence, self-esteem goes up!
Here’s to your success!
—Your Motivated and Dedicated Instructors